This is the second part of a post I wrote back in March (Rules to Live by - Part 1) about the rules or words I live by and the things I have learned (or am learning) along the way. My chronic fatigue syndrome has been a great teacher and my desire to understand this and come to terms with it has led me down some interesting paths. Although, that said, these "rules" or "life wisdom" as I like to call them have been a part of my life for many years - I still keep unearthing earlier, colourful laminated versions with many common themes.
Keep learning, be brave and don’t fear failure
Keep learning - it keeps you vibrant, happy and moving forwards. Don’t get stuck doing the same old things. View failure as a useful learning experience - if you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough. Don’t live a life of regret for things I wish I’d done or tried. If I don’t ask or don’t try, I don’t get!
The quote above is taken from a short poem by Erin Hanson (e.h), a 19 year old Australian.
I don’t have to be good at everything
It’s OK to ask for help. In fact it’s good to ask for help - it’s amazing what opens up…Remember: perfect is the enemy of done. And fun for that matter!
Remember LIFE IS NOW
Don’t keep waiting for the perfect time. There is no perfect time. Do it now, make a start.
Be present and enjoy the now. There is only now. Don't be so caught up in the past or the future, that you miss out on life right now.
Tackle nagging tasks and worries head-on
Don’t brush difficult things under the carpet because I don’t know what to do about them. Don’t put things off. Talk about it. Break it down and take the next action.
Stop trying to control everything
Let go more. Relax. I can't (nor should I) control everything. Surrender and open myself up to new possibilities. Just because I can't see them yet doesn't mean they aren't there.
Play (it's not just for kids). Do things JUST FOR FUN, because I love them, because they make me happy, not for an end game. Laugh more, be silly.
Be kind to myself, and to others, and love lots, unconditionally.
Stop judging myself so harshly. I'm doing my best, and that's good enough. Remember that we're all fighting some kind of battle, even if we don't shout about it.
Choose to see the positives in life
Don’t dwell on the negatives. Forgive and forget. Happiness is a choice. I can’t always control what happens to me in life, but I can control how I feel about it.
Act the way I want to feel
And treat others the way I want to be treated, without expectation.
Let go and try not to worry
If I’m feeling overwhelmed by tasks and lists - stop! Very little is really essential. If I can’t focus, choose a simpler, lower energy task - and don’t feel bad curling up with a book.